There is a great scene from the musical Fiddler on the Roof, by Joseph Stein. Tevya and his wife Golda, partners in an arranged marriage, did not meet each other until their wedding day. Now they have watched as two of their daughters have married for love. This leads Tevya to ask his wife the question, “Do you love me?” She attempts to deflect the question as nonsense, but he insists, and finally she categorizes all the things she has done for him over the years, all the hard work that goes hand in hand with daily living, and concludes, “If that’s not love, what is?”

Her point is clear — love is action, and actions speak louder than words.